Wednesday, July 29, 2009

10 Principles for Peace of Mind

Foreword: I got this from a good friend, R.B. I found guidance and lessons to be learned from it, that I decided to share it with you. I slightly modified its content to make it more "universal" – BlogusVox

1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked:
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget:
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive, forget and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yourself in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.

4. Do Not Be Jealous:
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly:
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:
“An empty mind is the devil's workshop”. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:
Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET.

21 comments:

  1. Nice share. =) I was just talking to my former officemates-friends who are now based in UAE for work, I told them to ignore the office politics. Also, whether off-work or not, remain humble but be assertive whenever necessary. In general, to live simply is the best thing to do.

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  2. nasa no. 7 lahat ng sagot.: "Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind."

    agree din ako sa sinabi ni witsandnuts,mabuhay ng simple ang pinakamagandang paraan.:)

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  3. Excellent! Gives a lot of inspiration to move aginst all hurdles and impudence that we face in everyday life.

    Life is Beautiful.

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  4. I love this list, I will have to re-post this soon if pwede so my blogger friends here in Gensan can read them, I'll link it to you of course. Kung saan ako guilty of the ten: Do not crave for recognition, Do not be jealous, do not procrastinate and Do not regret. Hayyy, these are brilliant! Thanks!

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  5. Ms.Jo, alam mo, very apt itong mga payo in our job.

    ever, as long as I fullfill all my needs and a little bit of "wants", okay na ako. simpling pamumuhay lang ang hangad ko.

    Pope, dyan ako sang-ayon sayo. Your outlook in life is very optimistic.

    sheng, okay lang ere-post mo ito. Hindi naman aking to eh. Isa pa, the more readers, the better.

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  6. Many of us are wishing for a peaceful world while a peaceful mind has been left behind! With your post, I've realized that having peace within ourselves should come first before aspiring for anything global.

    Nice! Thanks for this, Mr. Blogusvox. U

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  7. I totally agree(perhaps except for #5). Iba kasi ang application sa buhay ko. I'm sorrounded by amoral people and at times, I am amoral myself. Nakakahiyang aminin.

    I agree with the comments here. To live simply, that's the bottom line of all of these.

    Thanks Ed. Hayaan mo pag-aaralan kong mabuti ang #10 dahil dyan ako bagsak!

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  8. RJ, ang ganda naman ng comment mo. Para bang in the line of "charity begins at home".

    Nebz, amoral ka? I don't think so. Baka sumasayaw ka lang sa itaas ng mesa, ala Kho, pag lasing. Hindi naman masagwa yan! : )

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  9. its nice to live in a beautiful world with lots of surprises with a clean mind put GOD in the center of evertyhing.

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  10. amen to this list. although i must say i am guilty of committing of at least two from the list (di ko na lang specify hehehe). at least, i have some grounds to work on to. take care!!!

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  11. wow! this is probably the best list i've read in recent years. i needed this. :)

    i'll post this on my twitter account.

    love,
    nobe

    www.deariago.com
    www.iamnobe.wordpress.com

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  12. words of wisdom. As for the forgive and forget, it is very true that bitterness kills a person gradually because the mind and heart are at odds the whole time. To keep ourselves sane and alive, it's better to forgive and forget !

    On never leaving the mind vacant - paano yung mga tao able bodied who by their choice who don't work, istambay sa bahay forever. Their bodies are vacant :) and maybe their minds aren't because the watch TV the whole day hehe :)

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  13. amen, brother!

    akala kasi ng ilang tao riyan, umiikot sa kanila ang mundo. hindi ah!

    sa akin, sa akin umiikot ang mundo!

    (thunderclaps!)

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  14. MOST of the french are like that, dont bother them, they dont bother you.

    ganyan si Lolo, kaya nga ayaw niya mag blog, haha. wala raw siya pasensiya, hahaha

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  15. These words of wisdom don't turn passe at all. A good reminder once in a while. Thanks for posting.

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  16. missendgiftstop, yes, with all its faults, its still a nice place to live. In fact, its the only place we live. Thanks for dropping by!

    Lawstude, don't we all. I'm also guilty of one. : )

    Nobe, you may if you want. Thanks for the visit.

    bw, kaya galit ang mga mrs sa mga husband na "couch potatoes" dahil dyan. walang domestic contribution.

    atticus, I love you! Umagang-umaga pinapangiti mo ako.

    Francesca, I think most europeans have that traits. they mind their own business as long as the issue don't affect them.

    Abaniko, meron talagang mga kasabihang pwedeng pamantayan sa araw-araw na buhay. These are some of them.

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  17. hinahanap ko ang comment ko wala pa pala hehehe nagloloko kasi ang laptop ko, anyways....thansk for sharing these wonderful tips/principles, totoo lahat yang mga yan, isa na dyan yun #9 never leave your mind vacant kaya kung anu-ano ang nadodrawing ko hahaha....kakasira ng ulo kapag vacant ang mind...pero yun meditation parang ang hirap gawin yun baka makatulog ako hehehe

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  18. I’m still working on number 4 and number 7, but generally I have a peaceful state of mind.

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  19. Sardz, yung caricature ni Sison, kuhang kuha mo! : )

    Katz, yung #4 & #7, those are signs of a possessive person. Don't hold the bird too tight, if you want to keep it.

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  20. I love this entry.

    It might not be so simple to have some peace of mind in this chaotic world. But being aware of your actions and the impact your actions will actually pave the way in achieving this feat. Thanks for sharing this.

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  21. if there are things we should constantly reminds ourselves daily, it should be these.... hopefully by doing so, we can act on it and achieve our peace of mind...

    i also believe in spending time in prayer and meditation. it does a lot of good for the inner self/soul.

    nice sharing... :)

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